A bride-to-be’s request for her friend to lose weight before catching the bouquet at her wedding has sparked a heated debate online.
The controversy started after a post titled “My friend asked me to lose weight to catch her wedding bouquet” went viral on a popular online forum.
The author explained, “My best friend is getting married soon, and she asked me to catch her bouquet. For context, I’m 165cm (approximately 5’5″) and 58kg (around 128 lbs) – not exactly skinny, but definitely not plus-size either.”
She continued, “My friend said she wants all her bridesmaids and friends to be pretty and slim for the bouquet toss because it’s important to look good. She told me I should lose weight. I’m already trying to shed some pounds, but whenever I post pictures of food on social media, I get replies like, ‘Aren’t you on a diet?’ or ‘You really need to lose weight.’ It makes me feel uncomfortable, so I’ve stopped posting those pictures altogether.”
She then asked, “Am I being too sensitive? I understand it’s important for the bouquet-catcher to look good, especially because it’s such a public moment. But even though I get where she’s coming from, it still really hurts.”
The post sparked a flood of responses, with some commenters saying, “Just ask someone else to catch the bouquet. That’s ridiculous and would totally ruin the fun for me.” Others said, “If I were you, I’d just say no. ” Others said, “Married people understand—just showing up is a gift in itself. Catching the bouquet can be stressful enough without this body-shaming drama. The fact that you agreed to do it should be appreciated.”