Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, a former Yale University professor, is the pioneering psychologist who first introduced the concept of overthinking in women.
True to her expertise in women’s psychology, her book emphasizes the need for a pause in our thoughts, delving into the causes of overthinking and offering techniques to lighten our mental load.
Women are more prone to overthinking than men because they tend to be more emotionally attuned and relationship-focused.
Based on the author’s 20 years of research, one key to a healthy life is preventing negative emotions from eroding our efforts. The first step is breaking free from the overthinking trap.
Relationships are often the culprit behind our overthinking tendencies. Others’ reactions easily sway us, but the author suggests a more straightforward approach in these situations.
For instance, instead of spiraling into thoughts like, “I don’t think I did anything wrong, so why is my boss upset?” the author advises considering simpler explanations: Maybe they’re not feeling well or didn’t get enough sleep last night.
Unrealistic goals, such as squeezing into a size 2 dress or never getting angry at your partner, can plunge women into an abyss of overthinking, not to mention the disappointment when these goals aren’t met.
Instead, the author recommends more achievable targets, such as working towards a healthy weight or taking deep breaths before reacting in anger.
This book is your guide to uncovering the happiness hiding behind the veil of overthinking.
Women Who Think Too Much: How to break free of overthinking and reclaim your life by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema